But one thing remains the same

Dating someone you're not attracted to

To be blunt, if you are considering marriage which consideration should be present in any romantic relationship you are expecting to eventually satisfy that person's sexual desires. That may sound over the top but I absolutely promise you that was exactly how I felt in the company of these men. So just be friends with people.

But you also want someone nice to look at every day. It was him who I thought was the cutest thing in the entire world.

But we are humans, and as much as we are every other emotion we have to be passionate too. And the person I want to kiss, have sex with, and love needs to be someone I like staring at. It is possible to develop physical attraction for someone with whom you do not have that initial spark. The thing is, as often as I listen to the advice of my friends, I am not listening to this advice.

But one thing remains the same. There are hundreds of thousands of available men in the world who I might find an immediate physical connection alongside an intellectual one.

You can cause a lot

Sure you want someone who is going to make you laugh, someone who is smart enough to know what is actually going on in the world, someone with a great personality. If you find yourself eventually connecting in all ways spiritual, intellectual, emotional, physical with a woman, then consider a romantic relationship with her. But I would be lying if I said it was not something I noticed, alongside his charming personality, when I met him. Physical attraction can come later in a friendship.

This is just to say that if there is nothing there in the beginning there will be nothing there in the end either. Because if you are dating someone, not just sleeping with them for one night, chances are you might see them close to every day. Both were men I ended up dating and both if you can believe it were people that when I was with never matched up against anyone else.

And that many will say people are more than the looks they were given, which they have no control over. Another boyfriend of mine was a relatively normal to attractive guy. But it was this man, ironically, who I thought was extremely attractive when I was first saw him. And that attractiveness I seek out in a man can come in so many different forms, as it has before.

If any of those things

Too often we take the politically correct way out, thinking that we owe someone something even if we do not like them immediately. But going into a relationship with no physical attraction present is not a good idea and a bit cowardly. Bradly Cooper himself could have walked by while we were out eating dinner and I still would think he was maybe on the same level as my exes.

You can cause a lot of pain for the both of you if she were to find out you were using her for you own selfish desire for companionship. If any of those things are lacking - not just physical attraction, but any - then remain simply friends, and don't worry about it any more. But it does not work for me. Save her from the scars that are bound to happen. And no one could convince me otherwise on that.