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Dating while chronically ill

Other chronically ill people feel exactly like you do. Their lifestyle completely contradicts yours. The Overly Helpful One Yes, someone can be overly helpful. Worried I was paranoid, I asked a few people why they broke up with me. While some partners may attack the issues from your chronic illness face head on, these people avoid the topic at all costs.

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You are a person, and you happen to also be chronically ill. These partners go above and beyond when trying to help you manage your illness. Do something outside, weather permitting. Find someone who is empathetic to your struggles and who still treats you as an equal is essential.

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And when they burn out you are the one who gets burned. Better to out yourself and your condition early and avoid the consequences. As you start to get better, they try to hold you back out of fear or jealousy. The best partners treat the chronic illness as something you are fighting together, not a negative personality trait that is your fault. You have to be understanding of people when it comes to your chronic disease.

You may be able to get away with talking about your chronic illness with your partner later in your relationship. One day they are driving you to the hospital and sitting up with you all night and the next day they leave you alone in the hospital to go to a party saying it is all too hard. No good will come of this.

Be persistent and friendly. Sometimes people hear about your illness and are supportive. These breakups are often very abrupt and sudden.

Never lie about your illness. Of course, be stealthy about sneaking in your plantain chips and dehydrated apple slices.

And let them have the ability to untangle this information before you sit down to your first date. Not wanting to hurt their feelings by lying and saying you will cut out gluten is not going to work. It will just hurt more later on. You have to see yourself as someone who still can contribute a lot to a relationship despite your illness before finding someone who supports you.

This entry was posted in Relationships and tagged relationships. You will meet people, you will go on dates, and you will make romantic connections. One challenge, at least at the beginning of a relationship, is picking a place to go on a date.